About the value and devaluation of life experiences

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  When people devalue and humiliate each other after a break up, it is perhaps a little less painful for them because it is always easier to part with something that is not very valuable or even harmful. But as part of a life strategy, devaluing is just a waste of individual resource. When we reject people and demean relationship with that person, we actually reject the life experience gained in that relationship. And so life's time is wasted.  How often do you hear: "I wasted so much time on that fool" or "I gave it my all." ⠀ But what is left after the breakups that inevitably happen in life of each of us?  Experience and the ability to apply it.

Ask for help


 Asking someone for help often requires overcoming your fears and stepping out of your comfort zone. It really isn't that easy. You can never predict other people's reactions for sure. They have the right to say "no" to you. 

 

Even if you have great relationships with family and friends, asking for help is still not easy. Many people worry about bothering their parents, or about passing on their depression to friends. Or they might be convinced that asking the people close to them for help will make them feel guilty for not giving enough care and love. It may seem that in this case you have to choose between silently enduring your pain and bringing pain to those around you. 

 

But this is a misconception. Your loved ones will worry a lot more if you withhold the reasons for your worries from them.

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