About the value and devaluation of life experiences

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  When people devalue and humiliate each other after a break up, it is perhaps a little less painful for them because it is always easier to part with something that is not very valuable or even harmful. But as part of a life strategy, devaluing is just a waste of individual resource. When we reject people and demean relationship with that person, we actually reject the life experience gained in that relationship. And so life's time is wasted.  How often do you hear: "I wasted so much time on that fool" or "I gave it my all." ⠀ But what is left after the breakups that inevitably happen in life of each of us?  Experience and the ability to apply it.

Hit, run, freeze!


 Actually, these are the default settings of our psyche when reacting to stress.

Our brain can be divided into three basic units: the reptilian brain, the emotional limbic brain, and the neocortex.

The reptile brain is composed of the brainstem that develops in utero and manages the life support functions. It's responsible for our "freeze" response. This is when fear makes our legs go weak.

The emotional limbic brain is the mammalian brain that develops in the first 5-6 years after birth. It is responsible, in particular, for the "hit and run" reaction. In general, it includes any active reaction to danger.

The prefrontal cortex (frontal lobes) is responsible for planning and predicting, perceiving the time and context and controlling things. So during a crisis that is perceived as dangerous, this important part of the brain shuts down.

And the body switches to the "hit and run" or "freeze" mode. Does this behavior sound familiar to you?

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