About the value and devaluation of life experiences

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  When people devalue and humiliate each other after a break up, it is perhaps a little less painful for them because it is always easier to part with something that is not very valuable or even harmful. But as part of a life strategy, devaluing is just a waste of individual resource. When we reject people and demean relationship with that person, we actually reject the life experience gained in that relationship. And so life's time is wasted.  How often do you hear: "I wasted so much time on that fool" or "I gave it my all." ⠀ But what is left after the breakups that inevitably happen in life of each of us?  Experience and the ability to apply it.

I'm a loser!


 


✔️ She's so touchy!
✔️ You're such a bore!


People tend to stick unhealthy labels on themselves or others instead of analyzing mistakes made in a particular situation. When a person thinks in terms of cliches, it leads to negative and unpleasant consequences.

So what to do about it?
▫️ Learn to keep track of such cliches.
▫️ When you catch yourself thinking in this way, focus on the actual meaning of that label. What criteria did you use to realize, for example, that you are a loser?
▫️ Is the label helpful? What way?
▫️ Recall and analyze those certain situations that disprove the negative tag. For example, you had a successful interview and got a job.

But what's to be done if you labeled yourself?
It's better to stop such attempts right away, just don't let them happen.

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